The "IF" Phase

"IF" a word that is made to think of what should and could have happened in the future. In a relationship, you can think of anything about the future. You'll share it to your love one and make decisions about your future with them, but when things got worst and you ended everything with that someone, you'll have to think over everything again. with or without that person, It is really up to you if you can make things work or get on with your life. But this is the most tragic and dramatic part of moving on. This thing lingers to your mind and will make you think of getting back with your special someone regardless of how absurd they did to you back then. This will make you feel weak without that person and will make you think you're useless alone. But that doesn't mean that you can't get through from that phase. Friends will make you feel better, Talk to them. If you have something on your mind, tell them what it is. They'll make it sure that you are on the right track and not lingering in the memories you've created with. I have gone through it, but without any help of anybody, just by myself. It's hard and though to handle those feelings inside that you want to let go without someone who's willing to listen to your dramatic speech. But I got passed that. And when you got your head straight those "If's" you have will be gone. Just think about it, you're just looking back on things you had on that certain point in time. those are just promises to keep the relationship going, those are your goals as a future married couple. those are just things that will never be done without the other one. Remember, you can't make those things alone because It's the things you both want to have in the end of the run, in the end of the game of chase. Unless one of you locked it in and risked everything for the things you have it's just a promise that will be made by both partners. The If phase really is the hard part of moving on. you'll just keep remembering things you both said to each other but you can go through it. those are just words, without actions they are useless.